finding the positive

Sometimes it’s not easy to find the good when the bad seems all-consuming.

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My mother can be a fun and funny person, who likes to laugh and make crafty things and read stories and do puzzles. Sometimes, though, she gets a bit blue … her lost memory loss, her arthritic knee, her absent friends, and so on. I understand that she is dealing with a lot of loss, but it is frustrating when she cannot shift her mindset. Her doctor tried to convince her that she could look at this as a time to relax and to be thankful for what she has. I’ve tried to convince her of that, as have others. But to no avail – the hope is that she is distracted by something entertaining that takes her mind off her problems.  Continue reading “finding the positive”

finding the inspirational

It’s challenging sometimes to find something inspiring, but it’s great when we find it.

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finding an educational message

Mom and I like to learn new things, so we find ways to grow that also are entertaining.

 

 

 

Television is at its best, in my opinion, when it opens a window on something new or shines a spotlight on something artistic or presents great storytelling. For my mother, television is a primary source of information. She no longer reads newspapers and rarely reads magazines. TV is her source for national and local news; she doesn’t follow the ins and outs of pop culture. However, she does like history and science.  Continue reading “finding an educational message”

finding the funny everyday

My new job is to make sure Mom laughs everyday … like taking vitamins or eating protein.

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It’s been a while since I posted about life with Mom, who is 89 years old. She is living with me now after years of living independently. Before she moved here, she had a group of friends with whom she would go shopping or work on craft projects. They would chat and laugh and enjoy each other’s company. They still do chat and laugh, but much less frequently and at a distance of 400+ miles. People don’t call as often as they used to and who writes letters anymore? Mom’s movement is more limited – it’s physically hard for her to get around and she is afraid to go out and do things because she’s in a new city. Sometimes she can’t remember where she’s going or how to get home. I think she’s afraid that if she goes out, she will be lost forever. Her world is shrinking.  Continue reading “finding the funny everyday”