the amusing gentlemen of murder

Father Brown and Hercule Poirot are very entertaining guys … and have terrific sidekicks.

detective-152085_1280Father Brown and Agatha Christie’s Poirot are two of our favorite shows. It’s not surprising, as both showcase smart and amusing fellows who just happen to find a lot of dead bodies. At first, Mom was skeptical – she was not a mystery buff, after all.

The time periods of these shows, the 1950s for Father Brown and primarily the 1920s through the 1940s for Poirot (with some extension on either end), draw her in. She remembers these time periods! Often, she will share a tidbit from her own life that she recalled or remember a song that is playing on the show. She also has found that the delightful casts of these shows carry the day … and that’s worth a (fictional) murder or two. Finally, we both really enjoys shows that mix a little drama with a little humor, as we have enough seriousness in our lives to meet our quota.

With Father Brown, which we watched – both for the first time – last year, there was somewhat of a more immediate acceptance. Though this was a bit of a gamble, as she has been a devout Catholic all her life, so whenever a show features a priest it needs to hit just the right cord. Fortunately, this one does. Father Brown is serious when he needs to be and fun when he can be. Mrs. McCarthy, the parish secretary, is a terrific character and the cast is just fun, even when they are annoyed with each other. The other characters also provide a somewhat believable and entertaining take on things.

hercule-poirot-1986535_1280We are currently rewatching Poirot, so are on the lighter episodes with Miss Lemon, Captain Hastings and Inspector Japp. David Suchet as Poirot is amazing. Mom loves Poirot’s moustache, by the way – in the first watch, she thought it was rather silly and scoffed at his eccentric ways, but she seems to have lightened up a bit and can enjoy the performance more now. We chat about Poirot’s apartment, the clothes and the cars …. We first watched the show a few months after she moved down. The difference in her enjoyment of it is really interesting.

Several things factor into her increased pleasure in these programs. I think she has gotten used to the closed captioning running on the screen – she felt self-conscious at first – and it makes it easier for her to follow the story. Her hearing loss and need for hearing aids were sources of embarrassment for many years. I told her that I always use close captioning with British shows … which is the truth! She also has gotten used to the British (and Poirot’s Belgian) accents.

But more than these pragmatic things, I think this change in attitude comes from being more relaxed here and feeling like she doesn’t need to be defensive or overly critical. I think when she was on her own, she was concerned that people were watching her for signs of decline and judging or even disapproving of her decisions and actions. To some extent, that may have been true because she was having a harder time functioning on her own and often lost track of things. Although she expressed joy at spending time with friends, there was a growing sense of negativity around her before she came down here.

Because of these past experiences, I try to make sure that I don’t frame things in a “right vs. wrong” way. We discuss challenges so that she feels less like an old lady being told what to do and more like an adult who is being consulted. Maybe now that she is not being judged, she doesn’t need to judge others … even characters on TV!  And she can chill out and lighten up and laugh at the silly or ridiculous … and clap when the bad guy is caught.


laughing with television comedies

The challenges of older women and crazy families can be pretty entertaining ….


It’s hard to find comedies that engage my mother. Her sense of humor has changed over the years. She doesn’t stay current with pop culture, so does not always understand the references in current shows. There are two programs that always manage to make her laugh and that we have watched over and over again: The Golden Girls and Keeping Up Appearances.  Continue reading “laughing with television comedies”

finding an educational message

Mom and I like to learn new things, so we find ways to grow that also are entertaining.




Television is at its best, in my opinion, when it opens a window on something new or shines a spotlight on something artistic or presents great storytelling. For my mother, television is a primary source of information. She no longer reads newspapers and rarely reads magazines. TV is her source for national and local news; she doesn’t follow the ins and outs of pop culture. However, she does like history and science.  Continue reading “finding an educational message”

the joys of an old building

Old buildings can be unique charmers or money pits, but the sense of history is wonderful.

I like old buildings. My home is in a building that is about 115 years old. I just watched Homes by the Sea, a UK show on Netflix about, well, living by the sea – those buildings make my 115-year old look like a “new build”.  I invariably enjoy the (rather limited) offerings on HGTV more when the renovation or purchase involves an older house. Sometimes there is an updated, but not gutted, old home in another country, which is fun. I just find older buildings to be more interesting.  Continue reading “the joys of an old building”