new summer project … see you in the fall!

I am working on a new-ish writing project and so will be taking a break from the blog until the fall. Last year, I started writing a children’s story that will feature some drawings from my mother. Then, I got a little off-track when I started the blog. I had planned to try to do both, but the reality is that I can’t do both the story and the blog in addition to everything else. embroidery-74087_1280

I will be back in the fall. Fingers crossed that I can make some progress on the children’s story! See you in a couple of months. Have a great summer ….

the amusing gentlemen of murder

Father Brown and Hercule Poirot are very entertaining guys … and have terrific sidekicks.

detective-152085_1280Father Brown and Agatha Christie’s Poirot are two of our favorite shows. It’s not surprising, as both showcase smart and amusing fellows who just happen to find a lot of dead bodies. At first, Mom was skeptical – she was not a mystery buff, after all.

The time periods of these shows, the 1950s for Father Brown and primarily the 1920s through the 1940s for Poirot (with some extension on either end), draw her in. She remembers these time periods! Often, she will share a tidbit from her own life that she recalled or remember a song that is playing on the show. She also has found that the delightful casts of these shows carry the day … and that’s worth a (fictional) murder or two. Finally, we both really enjoys shows that mix a little drama with a little humor, as we have enough seriousness in our lives to meet our quota.

With Father Brown, which we watched – both for the first time – last year, there was somewhat of a more immediate acceptance. Though this was a bit of a gamble, as she has been a devout Catholic all her life, so whenever a show features a priest it needs to hit just the right cord. Fortunately, this one does. Father Brown is serious when he needs to be and fun when he can be. Mrs. McCarthy, the parish secretary, is a terrific character and the cast is just fun, even when they are annoyed with each other. The other characters also provide a somewhat believable and entertaining take on things.

hercule-poirot-1986535_1280We are currently rewatching Poirot, so are on the lighter episodes with Miss Lemon, Captain Hastings and Inspector Japp. David Suchet as Poirot is amazing. Mom loves Poirot’s moustache, by the way – in the first watch, she thought it was rather silly and scoffed at his eccentric ways, but she seems to have lightened up a bit and can enjoy the performance more now. We chat about Poirot’s apartment, the clothes and the cars …. We first watched the show a few months after she moved down. The difference in her enjoyment of it is really interesting.

Several things factor into her increased pleasure in these programs. I think she has gotten used to the closed captioning running on the screen – she felt self-conscious at first – and it makes it easier for her to follow the story. Her hearing loss and need for hearing aids were sources of embarrassment for many years. I told her that I always use close captioning with British shows … which is the truth! She also has gotten used to the British (and Poirot’s Belgian) accents.

But more than these pragmatic things, I think this change in attitude comes from being more relaxed here and feeling like she doesn’t need to be defensive or overly critical. I think when she was on her own, she was concerned that people were watching her for signs of decline and judging or even disapproving of her decisions and actions. To some extent, that may have been true because she was having a harder time functioning on her own and often lost track of things. Although she expressed joy at spending time with friends, there was a growing sense of negativity around her before she came down here.

Because of these past experiences, I try to make sure that I don’t frame things in a “right vs. wrong” way. We discuss challenges so that she feels less like an old lady being told what to do and more like an adult who is being consulted. Maybe now that she is not being judged, she doesn’t need to judge others … even characters on TV!  And she can chill out and lighten up and laugh at the silly or ridiculous … and clap when the bad guy is caught.

 

why does everything seem to take longer than you think it will?

I must be a terrible judge of timing … or maybe adjusting to “elder time” has slowed down “my time”.

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So, I thought I was back on track with blogging but I guess I wasn’t quite there! I’m prepping a few posts so that I can get back into the routine of posting a few times per week. I think it’s one of the greatest challenges of blogging – you start out with ideas and energy and thoughts come spilling out … then it tapers off … and then life happens and it becomes an effort to keep up the blogging routine.  Continue reading “why does everything seem to take longer than you think it will?”

allergies are evil

Why does it seem like I’m allergic to life?

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‘Tis the season, I guess. With pollen in the air and spring’s moldy dampness everywhere, the happiness of finally having warmer weather is torpedoed by allergies. As if the frequent sneezing episodes are not enough, the sinus headaches and asthma attacks are really draining. It seems like a chore to breathe!  Continue reading “allergies are evil”

book #2: funny and sad

Can’t We Talk about Something More Pleasant? by Roz Chast is a terrific and honest book.

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Can’t We Talk about Something More Pleasant? was a National Book Award finalist, a National Book Critics Circle winner and won a host of other awards. The author, Roz Chast, is a cartoonist and this memoir is written in that format, so it’s a quick read, though not always easy. I heard her discussing the book – I think on C-SPAN – several years ago (it was published in 2014) … long before my mother announced she was moving in with me.  Continue reading “book #2: funny and sad”

big knitting … this is no little cat mat!

For some reason, I took on a few bigger knitting projects all at the same time.

My mother started our “big knitting” craze by making a couple of lap blankets for Christmas – one for her sister and the other for herself. They aren’t too big – just fitting over her legs. We decided to put flannel on the back, making it nice and warm. Mom uses it all the time and it’s been great to see her use the things she has made and provided a nice break from the smaller cat mats and children’s hats we had been knitting.  Continue reading “big knitting … this is no little cat mat!”