the cat is looking his age

Oscar has always been a beautiful cat and he still is in many ways, but he’s somewhere around 20 years old now and has slowed down considerably. We’re using an old photo here – he’s a bit on the vain side and prefers the older photo for public consumption. He was a stray, so I’m not sure how old he is – he was about 2 when I adopted him almost 18 years ago. While he is hanging in there, we had one of the worst days of his life a few days ago.

I slept in until 6:30 in the morning. Unusual because Oscar usually wakes me up at about 5:15 am with a paw tapping me – firmly but gently – on the cheek. But when I awoke at 6:30, he wasn’t in bed. He was on the floor near my bed. I carried him to the kitchen to give him breakfast. He ate and drank a little but seemed out of it a bit. I went to pick him up and he collapsed – fainted in my arms. He has done this once before. My poor boy. I carried him to the bathroom because last time he pooped – this time he peed. I held him as he came to. I tried to stand him up but his legs wouldn’t hold him, so I put him on the rug near my bed, where he slept the previous night. It was the first time in 18 years that he didn’t make it into my bed.

It took him a while to really come around. He stayed on the rug all day – only getting up to eat or drink a little something. I don’t think he purred all day. I checked on him and he barely acknowledged me. I was afraid we had reach “that point” but wanted to give him more time to recover.

In the morning, I felt the familiar tap on my cheek indicating that he wanted a treat. He got a bunch of treats! My boy was back! He did his usual routine – breakfast, followed by a nap on the rug by my bed – moving to the perch by the bedroom window for a few hours, followed by a nap on the rug by my bed – moving to the perch in the living room for a few hours, followed by a nap on the rug by my bed – dinner, followed by a nap on the rug by my bed …. You get the picture. He engaged with the roommates (me and mom) to keep us happy. Purred a lot.

This is the second fainting spell in as many months. I haven’t called the doctor because I know what will happen. There will be tests … lots of them. And maybe new medication that may or may not work. The reality is that Oscar is pretty healthy for the equivalent of a mid-90-year-old person. He’s comfortable, engages with us, moves around to his favorite spots, gets treats on a regular basis and generally runs his own life, doing as he pleases. Doesn’t sound bad to me!

I had hoped we were past the worst. But last night, he could hardly walk. I had given him his medicine as usual, but there was clearly something wrong. I carried him back and forth between his food and his rug. I petted him while he purred. So we face the other reality: Oscar is mortal, he will likely have more bad days coming, and I will probably need to make a decision that I don’t want to make.

finishing the crown season 3

Let me get this last post on The Crown out of the way – I like to complete things! It now strikes me as odd that I’ve spent the most time writing about the season I liked the least! Oh, well …. Maybe in preparation for season 5 I’ll rewatch and add more about the other seasons. Anyway – here is the last of my season 3 thoughts.

The Dangling Man – focuses on David and Charles, as David is dying and Charles is looking for someone to validate his desire to be with the woman he loves, a.k.a. Camilla. I don’t have a problem with David once again talking about marrying his great love or even a young Charles looking to justify his joy at finding someone he loves. My problems with this episode are that it seems like they overstated the love story and forgot the scheming nature of David and Wallis, whether engaging with the Nazis or trying to make money. The show perpetuated the story that this was a romantic relationship for the ages, when really he was much more into her than she was into him. My biggest problem with the show’s presentation was that they changed actors for David and Wallis. I know this was part of the show’s gimmick … er … artistic choice to avoid having to age the actors. The problem here is that it didn’t feel to me like the David and Wallis I knew from seasons 1 and 2 – these were strangers. Alex Jennings and Lia Williams did such a great job in seasons 1 and 2 and that continuity would have would have made David’s death more impactful. Surely, they could have slapped on some make-up for one episode.

Imbroglio – focuses on Camilla and Charles and their complicated situation. I’ll admit that I’ve always had some sympathy for Charles in that he truly loved Camilla (probably more than she loved him, so there’s a parallel with David) and was not able to marry her at that time. Not to fear, I also have sympathy for Diana, especially in the early years of her marriage, but they were such a bad match and brought out the worst in each other. This episode shows why a Charles and Camilla match is better for Charles than a Charles and Diana match. This is another episode where the script deviated from reality in having Mountbatten and the Queen Mother intervene – finding ways to include the actors, perhaps?

Cri de Coeur – focuses on Margaret and this episode is excellent. Poor Margaret. On one hand, she is a wealthy and well-known woman who could have found a way to make a more substantial contribution to the world but was just too “entitled”. On the other hand, her family siding with her cheating and cruel husband at her birthday dinner was devastating. Did that really happen? Who knows, but she really was slammed by challenging relationship issues. So glad that she had some happiness with Roddy Llewellyn (and again the show misrepresented the timeline), but sadly that came crashing down. The suicide attempt was just so sad, but great acting by both Helena Bonham Carter and Olivia Coleman. A a jubilee that seemed anything but jubilant.

back again …

Between COVID, moving and other changes, it’s been quite a year. I’m finally able to poke my head out and start to rejoin the world.

As I said in a prior post (where have you been?), working from home has been a blessing because my mother needed to have someone around to help her get meals and function in daily life. When she moved down to Baltimore, she didn’t really want to go out and meet new people or go to a senior center or otherwise engage in the world unless I went with her. Being at home has allowed me to be around, so that was great.

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the crown, season 3 is not soooo bad

My previous post made it seem like I dislike The Crown (or at least season 3), but it is still a good show

So, what was good about season 3 of The Crown? There were several really good episodes.

I’ll make a blanket statement that I wish they had left the season 1 & 2 cast in place through the 1966 episode and added at least two of the first three episodes to season 2. QEII was about 38 years old in 1964 (end of season 2/beginning of season 3) and 43 in 1969 (starting at season 3, episode 4). Clair Foy was about 35 years old in 2019 when the season was shot and Olivia Coleman was about 45.

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the crown, season 3


So, I’m back again! It’s been an interesting year. More of that to come in future posts.

I started this post months ago, shortly after I finished season 3 of The Crown. It was an interesting season in that there were some parts that were very intense and other parts that were, dare I say, a little boring. If seasons 1 and 2 were more uniformly good, IMO, season 3 was a bit of a mixed bag. Mom and I are starting the series again, so may have more comments on seasons 1-3. I’m also watching season 4 with friends. It will be a bit of a smattering of thoughts, I’m afraid!

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excuses, excuses!

shield-417826_1920So, I’m not sure why I keep putting things off. I’ve always been a bit of a procrastinator, but until last year if something made it on my ever-present “to do” list, it got done. Over the past year, I’ve not only skipped over tasks, I’ve been ignoring the list altogether.

I think (hope) that I may be hitting a turning point, though, as I’m now starting to pay attention to the list again. This doesn’t mean that I’m actually completing things on the list, but at least I’m acknowledging existence of a list and tasks that I’ve been neglecting. This is progress! Continue reading

the all-important cat update

Sorry for the delayed post. It has been a complicated few weeks.

Oscar, at age 18, has had a challenging year. It all started about 6 months ago, when Oscar started pooping outside his litter box. He had never done this before (outside of the occasional accident) so I took him to the vet. Thus began a concentrated focus on cat poo that I never thought possible … and roller coaster ride of emotions. Continue reading